I'm reading through Ephesians, and something grabs my attention.
"14 For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named, that according to the riches of his glory he may grant you to be strengthened with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith--that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God." Eph 3:14-19
First, we need to be rooted and grounded in love. We need a nice, solid, thick, sturdy, trustworthy foundation of love to plant our feet on. That is the starting point.
Second, whilst standing on love, we need to be strengthened. In our inner most parts, our secret selves, we need the power of the Holy Spirit to enter and shore up the weak places. Anything in us that might buckle under pressure--wounds, lies, etc.--we need the Holy Spirit to enter, heal, and strengthen.
Then, and only then, are we ready. Then we can begin the process of comprehending the vast breadth and length and height and depth. Then we can know the love of Christ. And! And and and! Be filled with all the fullness of God!
Love, strengthen, love. That's one heck of an ice cream sandwich!